About this title: The chasm that exists between "Girls' World" and "Planet Parent" can seem endless and impossible to close. Author Rosalind Wiseman provides a helpful reference guide to the complicated, confusing lives that teenage girls lead, complete with ways for parents to figure out what rung their daughter is on the social totem pole. Even as pre-teens, ...
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Your search:Books»Queen Bees & Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends & Other Realities of Adolescence(125 available copies)
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Binding: Hardcover
Publisher: Crown Publishing Group (NY)
Date Published: 2002
ISBN-13:9780609609453ISBN:0609609459
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Binding: Paperback
Publisher: Three Rivers Press
Date Published: 2003
ISBN-13:9781400047925ISBN:1400047927
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Description: Like New. 2009-Paperback-May contain minor shelf-wear. Otherwise, volume un-read and in "As-New" condition. -Used-Like New-Hall Street Books proudly ships from Brooklyn, NY. All orders are processed and shipped within 24 hours, M-F. 100% money back No-Worry guarantee with expedited delivery and delivery confirmation available. read more
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Binding: Paperback
Publisher: Three Rivers Press
Date Published: 2002-03-04
ISBN-13:9781400047925ISBN:1400047927
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"Fascinating and terrifying. Includes a thought-provoking sociological examination of cliques and their function in middle school - think of them as battalions of girls each with their own uniform and set of rules (to some degree or another). She also makes a convincing argument for how girls "BFF" relationships in late elementary and early middle school set the stage for their dating relationships, and how they learn how to act to get a boy's attention - if your daughter is a "pleaser" among her group of friends she may very well carry that role into her dating relationships and be an easy victim of peer pressure. I also found her discussion of "boy culture" and how the rampant homophobia particularly among middle school boys reinforces heavy-handed masculine stereotypes and therefore affects how they react to and treat girls as well.
I imagine some may be put off by the author's writing style, which is quite informal, but I think she really gets girl culture in a way even most professionals don't. Some of this is worst case scenario but it is certainly worth reading about and preparing for. Her philosophy is generally in sync with my own - priorities for parents are to keep the lines of communication open, make clear what your values and expectations are, and try to allow your child to take the lead and handle problems on her own as much as possible - and take responsibility when she screws up. She gives some relatively practical (it's never going to be easy) advice about how to talk to girls when they are having trouble - from what to say if she backstabbed by a friend in 5th grade to how to react if you discover that she is sexually active or doing drugs."
"This was weird for me. The girls in this book did not reflect my experiences as a teenager at all. It did make a lot of my high school friends' behaviors make more sense though. I didn't get the games girls played in high school then and I don't get it now. Did give me some good food for thought: how many of us women still play fall into these roles and play these kinds of games? It also made me really grateful for the Church's Young Women's program--I can see how it would help guide girls through some of this craziness."
"Hands down, the best book on advising adolescent girls I've seen! This research is engaging and useful. The movie Mean Girls was based on this book, but the two pieces bear little resemblance.
Words of Wisdom: "We can't just point the finger at the media for the things girls do to each other. We also have to point to ourselves for not challenging the culture that creates these problems, and we must, as must our daughters" (10).
Cliques are self-reinforcing; as soon as you define your role and group, you perceive others as outsiders, it's harder to put yourself in their shoes, and therefore, it's easier to be cruel to them or watch and do nothng. It doesn't matter if we're talking about social hierarchies, racism, sexism, homophobia, or any "-ism," this is the way people assert their power, which really translates into discrimination and bigotry" (40)."
"A friend loaned this to me back when I thought I could save the world by becoming a high school counselor. It's a really easy go-to book for mothers of adolescent daughters growing up in a world that may seem a bit overwhelming. Wiseman did her work and surprisingly doesn't end up sounding like the awkward adult who naively thinks they've been "let in" to the inner sanctum of teen girl world. Because for the most part, she was allowed in about as far as any persevering adult could be.
My biggest criticism is that I feel this book sometimes caters to the paranoid and detrimental belief that the world is ugly and dangerous, and our little girls will certainly be preyed upon if we don't monitor their every move. I firmly believe the world is not as bad as the media would like us to think. "To Catch A Predator" is NOT serving justice with a heroic hand and clearing the monsters off our streets. It more speaks to the carnal sexual curiosity of its viewers who can watch it with total vindication under the guise of "getting the bad guys."
But that's a whole 'nutha rant.
Bottom line: I did appreciate the book for shedding some honest light onto the world of adolescent girls - their pressures, their fears, and the struggle between who they want to be and who they think they are. Let's just not get too paranoid. Let's love our kids, talk to them until their ears fall off, laugh with them and let them laugh at us. Let's demonstrate good character and expect the same from them. They will lie and they will screw up from time to time. But if their safety net of love and boundaries has a strong foundation, then they will grow from the mishaps and we will all survive. :)"
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