About this title: Two noted learning specialists have developed this amazing new training method that--for the average child--requires less than four hours. After this rewarding learning period, the child will be able to toilet train himself without assistance or a reminder. Now in a new package. Reissue.
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Binding: Mass-market paperback
Publisher: Pocket Books
Date Published: 1976
ISBN-13:9780671693800ISBN:0671693808
Description: Good. No dust jacket as issued. some wear to cover; some stains; no marks or writing within text; RTB1025. Mass market (rack) paperback. Glued binding. 189 p. Contains: Illustrations. Audience: General/trade. read more
Binding: Mass Market Paperback
Publisher: Pocket
Date Published: 1989
ISBN-13:9780671693800ISBN:0671693808
Description: Acceptable. Overall below average used book. May have highlighting, underlining, notes, price sticker on cover, or be an ex-library book. read more
Description: Good. Light shelf wear and minimal interior marks. Millions of satisfied customers and climbing. Thriftbooks is the name you can trust, guaranteed. Spend Less. Read More. read more
Description: Good. Light shelf wear and minimal interior marks. Millions of satisfied customers and climbing. Thriftbooks is the name you can trust, guaranteed. Spend Less. Read More. read more
Description: Good. Light shelf wear and minimal interior marks. Millions of satisfied customers and climbing. Thriftbooks is the name you can trust, guaranteed. Spend Less. Read More. read more
"After hearing several conflicting views, I checked out the three available books in my library to see what literature had to say. Is early okay? Does the child regress? What are the readiness signs? Why are people today saying it's okay to keep your child in diapers until he's four?
My greatest learning came from Toilet Training Without Tears - it goes through the history of what age children have toileted trained throughout the century. It does the best job (half the book) dealing with delayed learning, problems like bed-wetting, and stubbornness. I skipped most of that but I bet that most parents would find that the best part. Every book gives the "what age is best" opinion, but I kinda liked this one: don't try between 14 and 20 months if you want to avoid regression (and it states the reasons. I would go by the reasons more than the numbers). A second tip I liked was to talk about and prepare your child so they know what's coming. Don't use "stinky" and "nasty" comments, but treat it like a fact of life and often point out what they are doing in their diapers at the time and that someday they will do it in the toilet.
It also goes through three approaches: early approach (beginning at 3-8 months) from the 20's and 30's (poorly practiced then but practiced better in other cultures). The Readiness Approach, which became popular in the 80's and has become almost exclusively used today (except readiness used to refer to around 2-years old and now it's 3 or 4). Then the Rapid Approach, which was very popular in the 70's. It says hardly anything about the Rapid Approach except to read Toilet Training in Less Than a Day.
Toilet Training in Less Than a Day was my favorite. It gives great insight into good techniques for teaching your child anything. It gives them independence by very direct and close-up teaching. Some people think a child will become more independent by leaving them alone, but I think it takes real efforts like those described in this book, and more generally, the efforts described in Parenting Breakthrough.
As for a training method, I would add some caution that it says those that have tried several methods before and failed should not attempt this, and it only works well for very obedient children, usually ages 20-24 months. I didn't care that it only works for a small subset of children. I was fascinated that for those children, it is possible to train in a day. More independently than with most training.
Without Tears and Less than a Day somtimes contradicted eachother. Here are two: -Don't put a training toilet anywhere but in the bathroom. If you aren't at home, take the training toilet and the child to the bathroom to use it. VS. Put the training toilet a place that the child can go to themselves. -Children gain control of BM's before urinating (both agree on that). Train urine first since BM's only occur once a day. They urinate many times a day so it is easier to teach the shorter attention span behavior that is still in their memory. Additionally, if they are taught to remain dry and they are on the toilet to urinate, they will BM if they need to. So teaching one is teaching both. VS. Everyone else says to teach BM's first because they have control of that first and it's easier for them to feel whether they've done it or not. Later when they have control to urinate, it just "comes naturally"."
"The techniques in this book have worked for many of my friends and for my older son when he was three and a couple months. It's easy to take a day to do this. My three and one month son went in the potty twice by the end of the day. I think it's a go! Still needed to review some of it though since I couldn't remember everything from last time. You can skip the doll part and just do everything else! (Note, however: Was telling my mom about it on the phone today and she said that's the book she used and that my older neighbor-friend, Robin, taught me in an afternoon with the doll. Go figure.)
My only compaint with this book is that it doesn't mention a word about what to do about night time, if anything different, if bed-wetting occurs when all other training-behavior is successful during the day. My mom mentioned that her mom, when going to bed, used to wake my aunts up every night to use the bathroom since they both were deep sleepers and would wet the bed often and she got tired of washing sheets so would just get 'em up and they'd sleepily go to the bathroom and then go back to bed. (Sorry, Aunties, if you're reading this!) I'm only making a note of it since I guess it worked out fine and they eventually outgrew the problem and, though it sounded a bit cruel when my mom told me about it, I'd be willing to try anything after a while and it made sense after the explanation."
"I'll have to update this review once I actually try the method, but for now I'll just give my impressions of the book. I thought the 1970's pictures were priceless, and laughed out loud. The 1970's gender specific characterizations were hugely amusing too--how times have changed! It was written in a rather academic voice, which I liked since the only reason I'm reading it is to learn the process not be coddled or entertained. Now to try it out... I'm not too excited about that part of it.
Okay, so I tried out the method, and in the words of my two-year-old at the end of the day, "I want to wear diapers." In defense of the book though, it does say it won't work as well if you've already tried to potty train your child, and I already had tried.
Good news though, one month later, I told my daughter her diapers were too small (they really are, I fit her in her little sister's size so I don't have to buy two different sizes) and let her run around naked for a couple of days, and after two days with lots of accidents and one horrid poopy panties during church, she's potty trained now. My secret, bribing her with movies, she only was allowed to watch her Dora Snow Princess movie if she went on the potty. Yeah for Dora!!"
"The title made me put to much pressure on myself and probably my kid. I heard people talk miracles from this book. After sharing with them that it did not exactly work in the 4 hour training period as it claims, they were willing to admit that it did not work that way for them either. I was totally consistent. Every kid will learn differently. My friend Valerie told me about a three day training method. I just (moments ago) got done reading it. I think when I am ready to train Dylan this will work much better. Also there are some great tips I can still apply to Maddie even though she is well into training already. (Thanks SO much Valerie!) I give this book 2 stars b/c it has some useful info. It was poorly written and made me feel anxious by the writing style. It could have been more to the point and less confusing."
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