About this title: Three thousand years ago, a wise man said, "Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it." Good training is not crisis management; it is what you do before the need of discipline arises.
To neglect deliberate training is to shove your child into a sea of choices and passions without a boat of compass.
This book is not about discipline, nor problem children. It is apparent that, though they expect obedience, most parents never attempt to train their child to obey. They wait until the behavior becomes unbearable and then explode. With ...
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Binding: Trade paperback
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
Date Published: 1994
ISBN-13:9781892112002ISBN:1892112000
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Binding: Paperback
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
Date Published: 1994
ISBN-13:9781892112002ISBN:1892112000
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Binding: Paperback
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
Date Published: 1994
ISBN-13:9781892112002ISBN:1892112000
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Binding: Paperback
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
Date Published: 1994
ISBN-13:9781892112002ISBN:1892112000
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Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
ISBN-13:9781892112002ISBN:1892112000
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Binding: PAPERBACK
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
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Binding: Trade paperback
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
Date Published: 1994
ISBN-13:9781892112002ISBN:1892112000
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Binding: Paperback
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
Date Published: 1994-08-01
ISBN-13:9781892112002ISBN:1892112000
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Binding: Softcover
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries, Pleasantville, Tennessee, U.S.A.
Date Published: 1994
ISBN-13:9781892112002ISBN:1892112000
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"The parenting advice is FANTASTIC, but this book has room for improvement in organization and tact. It took me several re-readings to start to understand what exactly was being said and over a year to really understand how to implement it.
these are my notes, not quotes from the book.
CH 1 discipline is about character development.
Train your kids with a calm, patient voice, no yelling.
Training starts in infancy, as soon as a baby is old enough to arch his back and pitch a fit.
The reason some parents "discipline" excessively is a lack of training children properly in the first place.
A good child trainer is calm, patient, consistent, and doesn't bribe.
CH2 (I disagree with pg 14 and several other points in this chptr)
from 8-12 months a weaning process begins from parents being the child's devoted servant.
Kids develop morality gradually and aren't truly responsible until about age 8. Parents are responsible for teaching moral values before then.
A good trainer is not lazy, neglectful, or indifferent.
A child needs to have self control developed (no tantrums) before age 3.
CH3 to train a child your conditioning response should be immediate (but administered calmly and patiently enough that teaching can occur.)
if you don't like the way your children are, change YOURSELF, you are the one that trained them.
CH4 A good trainer has a good relationship built on trust and respect with their children. They enjoy spending time together, they never belittle, they never manipulate. They are sensible, just, kind, and smiling.
If the relationship is currently not a good one: 1)ask forgiveness of the child 2)develop a friendship with them
CH5 Overcoming our reluctance to spank children: Don't withhold spankings because of crying or lighten up the intended spanking. Don't think you are being "mean", it is in the child's best interest. Shaming, lecturing, and depriving child of priveleges are not better than spanking. Don't withhold spanking because of modern propaganda against spanking, be the parent! Kids don't need to build self-esteem, they naturally think they are the center of the universe. We teach them to respect others, when they refuse, spanking is in order. (A lot of innaccuracies in pgs 39-42, skip.)
CH6 When spanking: 1)have a prayer in your heart that it will be a valuable learning experience. 2)be calm and deliberate 3)be consistent 4)no hands! use a paddle (spankings don't happen in a burst of anger, they are a calm learning experience, pause and go get the paddle, don't use your hands.) 5)never spank in exasperation or anger 6)never spank without giving the child patient instruction as well.
CH7 Why spanking is the way to go: Spanking teaches a child to regard rules. If there is no spanking for infringement, following the rules doesn't have the power to build a child's character.
CH8 consistency in training is vital About obedience in the home... demand it expect it train for it discipline to receive it instantly and completely
CH9 Consequences should be consistent, not diminished as infractions get smaller. examples of training: bullying tantrums about training when its inconvenient about sleepy children about consistency attitude training is vital begging and whining separation anxiety defiance
CH10 Love, respect, and persuasion should be the primary parenting/training tools.
CH11 Potty training isn't something you train, it isn't a moral value, it is physical.
CH12 Delegate household work even if it is actually easier to do it yourself. "no one is educated who cannot endure the routine of work."
CH13 training deals with actions and attitudes, but discipline is only concerned with attitude.
If you have lots of kids close in age, retraining them all may seem overwhelming. Start with the youngest and work your way up.
If you spank and the kid is still showing defiance, then you need to spank again for the defiance. If you stop when they are still defiant this breeds rebellion, you want to get to the repentant stage in order for spanking to be valuable as a learning experience:)
If angry DONT spank. Just don't.
Non-spanking= tantrum-oriented children
Kids should never sass, tantrum, beg, bully, or whine Don't settle for less!
If this seems unrealistic, don't despair. You may have a lot of "weeds", but it IS possible to eventually get the garden under control.
"I could not believe the content of this book. When the authors got into their discussion of discipline, they actually discussed how to choose your switch and what kind of "switch" hits work for various behaviors. This book is barbaric! I understand "spare the rod, spoil the child," but that doesn't mean to abuse your child! I can't stand it when people use the Bible to justify mistreatment of others."
"Uh, no. This isn't a good book. It seems to forget that babies and children are in fact babies and children and they are not plotting against you. When a baby bites its mother's breasts, it's not doing it out of malice, so why pull their hair? Why not stop the kid from nursing and then start again? Why is it necessary to inflict pain on a child that small? This book advices switching starting at the age of four months. Why? You mean to tell me that rather than taking your guns and putting them in high places, child proofing your house, not allowing sharp objects where your kid can get them you have to switch them instead? Why is that necessary? This is the sort of person who makes Christians look bad and makes atheists what to stay atheists. The good thing is he recommends spending time with your kids, teaching them, showing them love, but you know what? You can do that without hitting them with PCV pipes and thin sticks. I say throw all of that stuff out of the window and realize that these kids are KIDS. Beating them isn't going to keep them from becoming crooks when they can barely talk, let alone walk."
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