About this title: "The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child", by Nancy Verrier, is a challenging and courageous work. A book which adoptees call their "bible," it is a must read for anyone connected with adoption: adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, therapists, educators, and attorneys. In its application of information about perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding, and loss, "The Primal Wound" clarifies the effects of separation from the birthmother on adopted children. In addition, it gives adoptees, whose pain has long been unacknowledged or misunderstood, validation for their feelings, as ...
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Binding: Paperback
Publisher: Nancy Verrier
Date Published: 1993
ISBN-13:9780963648006ISBN:0963648004
Description: Acceptable. Well my previous companion utilized green highlighter on 10 of my crisp bright pages, leaving the rest free of any other form of marking, soiling, or previously dog eared pages. My binding remains snug, spine undamaged, and my soft covers are clean and bright showing a light reduction to their original new luster with light edge wear. The choice of standard shipping is via USPS media mail and can take up to 21 days for USPS to deliver. If you require your product sooner please ... read more
"This was a fascinating book. As an adopted person, it illuminated a lot of the feelings and issues I have had for years but never had a name for. It made me realize that it's healthy to have anger and sadness related to the loss of my birthmom, whereas before I thought I should just be grateful to have ended up with the family I got.
It also brings into question adoption as an institution and how our society might rethink it. The author makes the point (and backs it up with evidence) that taking a child away from its birthmother might be the worst thing that could happen to it, even if the birthmother doesn't have the economic means to care for it at the time. Speaking from experience, I think this is true, and I had probably the most ideal adoptive parents a person could ask for.
Adoption is an issue that is sorely in need of discussion in our society, as are the issues of surrogacy, anonymous artificial insemination, children growing up in day care, and abortion. The author has a refreshingly broad viewpoint on these things, seeing them as the paradoxes they are and not the black/white issues many activists like to portray them as. Her main point is one that is often forgotten by parents and medical professionals - that infants are beings with legitimate emotions, not objects that can be passed amongst strangers and expected to like it."
"So you wouldn't read this book unless you were adopting, but since I made it through you get the review! I gave it 3 stars, one for each ah-ha moment I had while reading. The author is a bit wacky in my opinion, but she pointed out things from an adoptees perspective that parents wouldn't think of but are valuable to know."
"A highly enlightening, partly devastating look into the minds of adopted children. I highly recommend this book if you know someone who is adopted and can't seem to figure out why they act the way they do sometimes. I also recommend it for adopted children but please be sure to have someone you can talk to."
"read this at a time when I was going through another journey of finding myself. Extremely helpful and insightful (for me, as an adoptee). For some, it might be controversial..."
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