About this title: In an emotionally revealing way, Bradshaw shows us how toxic shame is the core problem in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions, and the drive to superachieve, resulting in the breakdown in the family system and our inability to go forward with our lives.
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Binding: Trade paperback
Publisher: Health Communications
Date Published: 1988
ISBN-13:9780932194862ISBN:0932194869
Description: Very good. No dust jacket as issued. Trade paperback (US). Glued binding. 245 p. Contains: Illustrations. Audience: General/trade. read more
Binding: Paperback
Publisher: HCI
Date Published: 1988-10-01
ISBN-13:9780932194862ISBN:0932194869
Description: Fair. Light reading and shelf wear, water damage to upper left corner, does not interfere with text. Unconditional money back guarantee. read more
Edition: Reprint. Illustrated.
Binding: Trade paperback
Publisher: Health Communications, Deerfield Beach, FL
Date Published: 1988
ISBN-13:9780932194862ISBN:0932194869
Description: Very good. No dust jacket as issued. Trade paperback (US). Glued binding. 245 p. Contains: Illustrations. Audience: General/trade. No marks or writing inside. Light shelf wear. Corners still sharp. Good clean solid copy. read more
Edition: Reprint. Illustrated.
Binding: Trade paperback
Publisher: Health Communications, Deerfield Beach, FL
Date Published: 1988
ISBN-13:9780932194862ISBN:0932194869
Description: Very good. No dust jacket as issued. Totally clean and tight inside. A bit of wear to the covers and spine including light scratches, creases, slightly bumped corners, but no stains. A nice solid copy. Trade paperback (US). Glued binding. 245 p. Contains: Illustrations. Audience: General/trade. read more
Binding: Trade Paperback
Publisher: Hci, Deerfield Beach, Florida, U.S.A.
Date Published: 1988
ISBN-13:9780932194862ISBN:0932194869
Description: Good+ 8vo. {011372} Healing the Shame That Binds You by John E. Bradshaw. ISBN 0932194869. Published by Hci in 1988. TRADE PAPERBACK 8vo Psychology 245pp. {Book Condition} GOOD+ {Book Condition Details} Cover: barely visible edge wear, Text: creasing, margin notes. read more
"This book gave me tools to start dealing with some old wounds. Most importantly, it gave me tools to help me shut up the negative voices in my head that tell me I'm not worthy."
"This book is a fundamental text in the field. What I found most helpful was understanding that shame-based families operate in a set of dysfunctional rules. Understanding that is the key to uprooting them from your psyche (or at least not taking them seriously).
It also helped me understand the physical experience of shame and how it shuts down your whole system - it binds to the emotions or sensations you were feeling at the time you were shamed, so when you feel those emotions again, the shame comes back. So, normal emotions or sensations such as embarrassment or shyness trigger excruciating feelings of shame.
One disappointing aspect was the focus on 12-step groups as the only solution. There are others - you can work with the feelings yourself, by slowly exposing yourself to the triggering experiences and breathing through the shame attacks. This work is best done in therapy - both because it's easier to trigger the feelings in a context where that is your specific goal, and because it's often a gentler and safer context in which to experience the feelings. Since shame is so overwhelming, experiencing it in normal social contexts is not fun and will usually cause you act in strange ways to try to shut down the feeling (like suddenly and vehemently changing the topic). That can be embarrassing and shame-producing in and of itself, so I recommend therapy. Most people you meet aren't all that comfortable with their own shame. In looking for a therapist, ask or assess whether they've worked through their own shame. Being a therapist doesn't automatically mean you are qualified to be one."
"First read in the 1980s, it is a book I go back to from time to time and am amazed at how relevant it still is. And the remarkable thing is, as I get older, I get different things out of it each time. An amazing book for anyone who is on the path of self-discovery."
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