About this title: The author asserts that people's lack of decisiveness, whether in respect of work, relationships, money or life in general, is attributable mainly to fear. She claims that fear prevents them from doing what they really want and need to do in order to grow and achieve a sense of well-being, and that holding back through fear causes feelings of confusion, self-doubt, frustration, anger and helplessness. The aim of the book is to offer readers a path of re-learning, by means of which they can get rid of faulty thinking, feel the fear and push through it to turn anger into love and indecision ...
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Binding: Trade paperback
Publisher: Ballantine Books
Date Published: 1988
ISBN-13:9780449902929ISBN:0449902927
Description: Good. No dust jacket as issued. Moderate wear on Cover/Interior Pages. (W3) Crease on cover. Trade paperback (US). Glued binding. 240 p. Audience: General/trade. read more
Binding: Softcover
Publisher: Ballantine Books
Date Published: 1988
ISBN-13:9780449902929ISBN:0449902927
Description: A good reading copy only. May have underlining or highlighting throughout. Contains heavy marginalia. -, Trade PaperBack, Good / read more
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"This is a useful book on how to deal with facing one´s fears and making change. It was very helpful to me, and hopefully will be again, in the process of making transitions."
"Great book for all those scaredy cats out there! Including me!! ha It really puts things in perspective and says hey you can do it and what do you have to lose. soo true! There is a grid in the book that makes you write down that is important in your life and what you want to make a priority. Sounds simple but when you write it down and see it, its makes things more clear. I can read this over and over again!!"
"* Taking Risks - Don't fear to make decisions. One of the biggest fears that keeps us from moving ahead with our lives is our difficulty in making decisions. The problem is that we have been taught "Be careful! You might make the wrong decision!".
===== Origin of Love =====
Learning to give. One of the most important lessons one has to learn in life is how to give, and therein lies an answer for fear.
As babies we represent the ultimate of neediness. We come into this world as total takers. We have to take, or we will die. Our survival is tied up with the world nurturing us. We give little back. We don't care what time we wake our parents when we hungry, or how loudly we scream and bother the neighbors when we want to be picked up.
Yes, parents often get a feeling of joy from the smile or the touch of their child and, in that sense, the child is a giver but i doubt it is conscious. No, their "gift" is on a rather primitive or reflexive level. In fact, a hungry belly in the morning will produce only loud shrieks of impatience.
As the years pass, we function as more and more independent beings able to care of ourselves - or so it appears. We dress ourselves, we feed ourselves, we earn a living. Yet there seems to be a part of us that never progress much beyond the crib. Metaphorically, no one will come to relieve our hunger for food, money, love, praise and so on.
Any relief in the way of "food" is only temporary; we know the hunger will come again.
===== Growth Buddy =====
* You and your buddy can help each other by meeting weekly and working on the value grid, your goals, your action plan, or whatever. * Committing yourself to do certain homework before each meeting often spurs you on to action. * The key is to take your commitment to your buddy seriously and act responsibly during the week by getting everything done that you committed yourself to do.
===== Acknowledgment of pain is very important; denial is deadly =====
Sandy is someone who avoided her pain. When her son died in an automobile accident twelve years ago, she never faced the full impact of the loss. Friends remarked on how well she had handled her son's death. Three years later, she developed epilepsy, which seemed to be unrelated to the loss she had experienced. For nine years, she suffered from seizures that prevented her from working. In addition, her relationships with her husband and other children were slowly deteriorating.
Sandy finally went to a support group to get help in dealing with the upset the epilepsy was creating within the family. During the first session, the group leader asked if she had ever suffered a great loss. She said yes, but explained that it had happened so long ago it was no longer a factor in her life. He knew better and with great skill managed to get her back into the experience of her son's death. It was then that she finally allowed her grief to emerge.
Each time the group met, Sandy continued to deal with her pain. Almost "miraculously", her epileptic symptoms disappeared within five weeks. She discontinued her medication, found a good job and began to repair the damage done within her home as a result of her illness. Pain can be incredibly destructive if kept submerged. Although Sandy's is a dramatic example, unacknowledged pain is subtly destroying many people's lives."
"Self Help. Gives concrete activities to help conquer your fears. I found it very helpful in conquer (well not Completely conquering:-) the fear of public speking & conducting large meetings."
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