About this title: Why is it that the relationships we care about most - those with our intimate partners - often seem doomed to fail? Why do we feel compelled to punish those closest to us who love and appreciate our real qualities? In "Fear of Intimacy", the authors bring almost 40 years of clinical experience to bear in challenging the usual ways of thinking about couples and families. They argue that relationships fail not for the commonly cited reasons, but because psychological defences formed in childhood act as a barrier to closeness in adulthood. A wide range of cross-generational case studies and ...
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Binding: Paperback
Publisher: Amer Psychological Assn, Washington DC
Date Published: 2002
ISBN-13:9781557987204ISBN:1557987203
Description: Very Good. 358 pp. Sixth printing. Clean solid copy with unmarked text and light edgewear. Secure boxed packaging. "...This book shows how therapists can help identify and overcome the messages of the internal "voice" that fosters distortions of the self and loved ones. Related issues such as interpersonal ethics and the role of stereotyping are also discussed. The authors' innovative approach should be of interest to therapists and couples alike. " read more
Binding: Paperback; Eighth Printing
Publisher: American Psychological Association (APA), Washington, D. C
Date Published: 2004
ISBN-13:9781557987204ISBN:1557987203
Description: VG. Minor shelf wear. Pages clean, binding solid.; 358 pages. read more
Edition: First edition
Binding: Paperback
Publisher: American Psychological Assn, Washington DC
Date Published: 2000
ISBN-13:9781557987204ISBN:1557987203
Description: Very Good. 358 pp. Explains through a blend of psychoanalytic, existential, and cognitive-behavioral theory, why and how we recreate the emotional ambience of our childhood, however painful. read more
Edition: Edition Not Stated
Binding: Hardcover
Publisher: American Psychological Association (APA), Washington, DC, U.S.A.
Date Published: 1999
ISBN-13:9781557986054ISBN:1557986053
Description: Fine in Very Good jacket. 1557986053 dj folded at back, spine faded. read more
Edition: Illustrated.
Binding: Hardcover
Publisher: American Psychological Association (APA)
Date Published: 1999
ISBN-13:9781557986054ISBN:1557986053
Description: Good in good dust jacket. Hardcover Edition-Average Wear-Few Markings. Sewn binding. Cloth over boards. 358 p. Contains: Illustrations. Audience: General/trade. read more
Description: NEW, Oversized HARDBACK w/ Dustjacket, some shelf wear, Shiny near Fine copy! FREE USPS TRACKING NUMBER! American Psychological Association (APA), 1999. read more
Edition: First edition
Binding: Hardcover
Publisher: American Psychological Association (APA)
Date Published: 1999
ISBN-13:9781557986054ISBN:1557986053
Description: As new clothbound hardcover and dust jacket. Book looks unused and no names or markings are noted. Stated first edition. Ships fast with delivery confirmation on all domestic orders. read more
Binding: Paperback
Publisher: Amer Psychological Assn
Date Published: 2000
ISBN-13:9781557987204ISBN:1557987203
Description: New. Written in clear, jargon-free language, Fear of Intimacy shows how therapists can help couples identify and overcome the messages of the internal "voice" that fosters distortions of the self and loved ones. The authors' innovative approach will be of... read more
Binding: Hardcover
Publisher: American Psychological Association (APA)
Date Published: 1999-11-15
ISBN-13:9781557986054ISBN:1557986053
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Binding: Hardback
Publisher: AMER PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSN
Date Published: 1999
ISBN-13:9781557986054ISBN:1557986053
Description: New. Written in clear and jargon-free language, "Fear of Intimacy" shows how therapists can help couples identify and overcome the messages of the interval voice that fosters distortions of the self and loved ones. read more
"In reading this book, I came to understand how defensiveness becomes solidified, how the patterns of one's past can persist and interfere with the building of true connectedness with another person. Whether you might find Firestone's methods to build intimacy useful, he clearly explains how and why relationships become routinized, spontaneity disappears, and there is a loss of interest in one another. Just the recognition of one's stumbling blocks is useful in moving forward, no matter which method you might embrace to change them."
"This book is definately interesting, but given his preface I am curious about his methods... It seems to come from a very psychoanalytic point of view. There do seem to be some valid conclusions, yet I am not convinced (yet) that they are universally applicable. I need to do more research on the book, the author, and his research."
"I would recommend everyone read this book. Everyone, I don't care if you're already in a relationship and don't think you are afraid of closeness. I think men mostly get blamed for a fear of committment and fear of intimacy but women and men are guilty of it. We choose our partners based on our hopes and fears. We hope they will fix us but fear they will leave us or smother us. Reading Fear of Intimacy helps one see how they themselves are ruining relationships based upon their fears. We sabatoge ourselves when we get close to another whether in friendships or significant relationships. We have too high of expectations on others while we blatantly ignore what it is we're doing to mess up. We expect our relationships to fulfill us and last forever and when they don't maybe we blame ourselves or the other person not getting to the heart of what happened. Fear of intimacy explains the process and a little bit about how to fix it. Basically you need to be emotionally mature which means fulfilling yourself first so you don't get butthurt at the slightest infraction. Learn that love is allowing yourself to do what makes you happy while allowing another to do what makes them happy and that is what builds the closeness we all crave."
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