About this title: Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided thousands of readers with an answerand has helped them to apply it to their own lives. Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents ...
read more
Note: This is a general synopsis. Each listing is described below.
Binding: Paperback
Publisher: Basic Books
Date Published: 1997
ISBN-13:9780465016907ISBN:0465016901
Description: Good. A copy that has been read, but remains in clean condition. All pages are intact, and the cover is intact (including dustcover, if applicable). The spine may show signs of wear. Pages can include limited notes and highlighting, and the copy can include "from the library of" labels. read more
Binding: Softcover
Publisher: Basic Books
Date Published: 1997
ISBN-13:9780465016907ISBN:0465016901
Description: A good reading copy only. May have underlining or highlighting throughout. Contains heavy marginalia. -, Trade PaperBack, Good / read more
Description: Good. By Alice Miller; ISBN: 0465016901; Pub. : Basic Books; Pub. Date: 1997; Media: Paperback; Weight: 5.6 oz.; NOTE: Highlighting, very faint underlining on about 25 pages. Other than that, excellent physical condition. Covers have a tiny bit of edgewear. Surfaces of covers are glossy. Binding is good. Highlighting and/or writing on at about 25 percent of pages. by Alice Miller; ISBN: 0465016901; Pub. : Basic Books; Pub. Date: 1997; Media: Paperback; Weight: 5.6 oz.; NOTE: Highlighting, very ... read more
Description: Acceptable. 1996-Paperback----Used-Acceptable-Hall Street Books proudly ships from Brooklyn, NY. All orders are processed and shipped within 24 hours, M-F. 100% money back No-Worry guarantee with expedited delivery and delivery confirmation available. read more
Description: Good. 1994-Paperback----Used-Good-Hall Street Books proudly ships from Brooklyn, NY. All orders are processed and shipped within 24 hours, M-F. 100% money back No-Worry guarantee with expedited delivery and delivery confirmation available. read more
Description: Good. 1996-Paperback----Used-Good-Hall Street Books proudly ships from Brooklyn, NY. All orders are processed and shipped within 24 hours, M-F. 100% money back No-Worry guarantee with expedited delivery and delivery confirmation available. read more
Binding: Trade paperback
Publisher: Basic Books
Date Published: 1997
ISBN-13:9780465016907ISBN:0465016901
Description: Very good. No dust jacket as issued. Same ISBN, different cover art. Trade paperback (US). Glued binding. 136 p. Audience: General/trade. read more
Binding: Trade paperback
Publisher: Basic Books
Date Published: 1997
ISBN-13:9780465016907ISBN:0465016901
Description: Good. No DJ Issued. Good. No dust jacket as issued. Trade paperback (US). Glued binding. 136 p. Audience: General/trade. VERY GOOD. Crisp, clean, unread and unmarked paperback with light shelfwear to the covers-VERY NICE! ! read more
Binding: Paperback
Publisher: Basic Books
Date Published: 1997
ISBN-13:9780465016907ISBN:0465016901
Description: Very Good. Text pages clean & tight with no markings or highlighting. Appears unread. For those who, as children, had to hide their feelings by being numb. Helps to reclaim their life. Extremely readable copy. read more
"I've been hearing about this book for a while (mostly from Bill!) and wanted to give it a try. Some parts I liked a lot; I thought her points about how emotionally insecure and unstable parents raise children who are unable to fully access their emotions because their emotions have been blocked in order to accommodate their parents' needs were pretty insightful. I also thought she got it right when she wrote about how people's needs for achievement often stem from the feeling that their parents' love was contingent on those achievements. These parts of the book definitely gave me food for thought regarding how to be a truly loving and mature parent. However, I had issues with other parts of the book, most especially points about how difficulty with breast-feeding connects to a woman's own hatred of her mother and that the need for political activism dissipates once one has come to terms with one's anger against one's parents. Also, I wonder if *any* parents could be as good and selfless as the ideal, self-actualized parents of Miller's imagining. And perhaps raising children who have *some* degree of sensitivity and awareness of other people's feelings from a young age is not a totally bad thing? In the afterword of the book, Miller mitigates some of her dogmatism by acknowledging that there may be other ways of becoming an emotionally healthy person other than totally reliving all the pain and humiliation of one's childhood through therapy; I found her comments that happiness can be just as therapeutic as pain and suffering to be heartening."
"perfect for those looking to blame mommy & daddy for all those nastly little bits of self-spewage. just kidding!! It moved me to tears at times (though not too hard a thing to do!). miller's study points to the growing problem of living through our children due to unresolved issues with our own upbringing & how therapists may in fact be detrimental to our psycological health if they themselves be still enraptured by their "mothers" (read "caregivers"). this book is a fantastic eye-opener & anyone planning on babies needs to read it!! watch out for freud, though...she references the oedipus complex a bit too much for my taste."
"This was a good start, but I need more guidance! I feel like the book could have been shorter, she spends way too much time making her case: depression and other psychological problems stem from having been mistreated as children, and as a result we're repressing our true feelings and it's manifesting as depression or grandiosity, etc. It also means that we're likely to mistreat our children in the same way, even if we make a conscious effort not to. She says that we need to discover the hidden truth about our childhood and mourn for the love we didn't get, in order to end the cycle of mistreatment, but doesn't really tell us HOW, except that it should be done in therapy. Well damn you, Alice Miller, not all of us have time or money for therapy right now but we'd still really like to get to work on this stuff! I'm going to read some of her other work to see if there's more help there.. but I have a feeling I'm barking up the wrong tree."
"Unfortunately, I think that this book could be read by many, many people who see their lives played out in Alice Miller's words and psychological analysis. It offers up a better understanding of the actions of those that raise us and how that effects the ways we think about ourselves. Not your typical "I'm messed up because of my mother" book. This book might just leave you feeling more understanding, acknowledged and ready to move past that inner conflict between the life you want and the snags you keep running into."
We guarantee every item's condition, as described on Alibris. If you are not satisfied that an item is as described, return your purchase for a refund.
rating
