About this title: Dr. Phil McGraw's eldest son Jay helps kids identify potentially harmful situations and deal with bullies through tips, techniques, and examples that apply to real-life situations. He takes a no-nonsense approach to bullying and even speaks to the bullies themselves to help them change their ways.
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Date Published: 2008
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Publisher: Aladdin 2008
Date Published: 2008
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Publisher: Aladdin
Date Published: 2008-10-28
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Date Published: 2008-10-28
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Publisher: Simon & Schuster Childrens
Date Published: 2008-10-28
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"I have VERY mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, I think Jay McGraw means well and he tries to give kids some realistic, non-violent ways to deal with bullying. On the other hand, I question some of his thinking and I feel like a the bulk of this book is fluff.
For starters, I really like the Anti-Bullying Pledge for Students (p. 138-139). I think this can be useful, especially in classrooms. I also thought the chapter summaries pages (that look like pages out of a notebook) could be pretty helpful and I plan to use those in some lessons. And I like that Chapter 9, which is about educating parents, acknowledges that sometimes parents have some really bad ideas about how to deal with/solve the problem of bullying. Plus, I like the fact that he tells the reader that they are in control and that it really is largely up to them to react in ways that will limit the likelihood that they will become a victim of bullying.
But I have major issues with the way that I think Mr. (not Doctor) Jay McGraw oversimplifies everything. He seems totally obsessed with cyberbullying, which I think is a problem but it's nowhere near as prevalent as he makes it sound like it is. He also seems to think that just about every coming of age experience that isn't positive turns out to be bullying. I'm a teacher and I see bullying and I was once a kid and I've experienced mild bullying. I think a part of life is figuring out who your friends are, what good friends, and how you should deal with unpleasant situations. NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO BE YOUR FRIEND. And I think it's a little naive for Jay McGraw to want everyone to feel good all the time. As teachers we need to build learning communities but there is something to be said for developing life skills including dealing with people who may be angry and may not want to interact with you in positive ways.
What is his experience with bullying, anyway? I mean, he flat-out tells you that he was never bullied in school. He was friends with "everybody." He's Dr. Phil's son but he has absolutely NO experience that makes me believe he is the "teen expert" that he claims to be.
I also question some of his stats. On p. 78 he says, "By the time they are 24 years old, four out of 10 adults who used to be bullies will commit at least three crimes." He cites NO sources and does not go on to explain what kind of crimes they commit. I get really annoyed with people who make claims like this and don't back them up.
I also don't agree that bullying "is worse than it's ever been" (his claim on the back cover of the book). I think bullying has been around forever it's just that we've actually started to have more of a national dialogue about it in recent years.
I think there is some value to this book and I don't mean to sound so negative about it but I think he oversimplifies certain things and then goes nuts over-explaining and over-rationalizing others.
If I was a middle schooler and I was reading this I think I'd feel pretty pessimistic, not optimistic about the problem. He spends the first half of the book talking about how horrible bullying is and then it seems like his solutions really aren't all that ground-breaking. Considering all of the build up, I thought Chapter 7: Taking on Bullies was pretty weak. The reality is that it's a complex problem and I'm not sure any cookie-cutter solution works.
I also wish he had talked at least a little bit about gangs as a form of bullying. I realize he probably has little experience with inner-city youth but that's a very real form of bullying that goes on in inner-city communities, where there is a strong culture of "no snitching." His examples all seem very small town-ish and suburban to me.
So I sort of hesitate to recommend this. The tone annoyed me, at times, and I think some kids would be turned off of it. Yet I do see myself recommending this to a few kids in particular, who I think are likely to have problems with bullying.
I do plan to use some of the chapter summaries and hopefully the Anti-Bullying Pledge (or some variation of it). He raises a lot of important issues and I'm glad people are talking about this in a "what kids can do about it" kind of context."
"Jay McGraw, son of Dr. Phil McGraw, gives a candid discussion about dealing with bullies. He gives a definition of bullying, discusses types of bullying, why people become bullies, and the damage that can be caused by bullying. He gives strategies for dealing with bullies and, perhaps most importantly, why bullies need forgiveness. I particularly liked the contracts for students, parents, and school personnel to sign that will keep all students safe. This is an excellant book to have in 3rd-8th grade classrooms as it is written in a way that would appeal to that wide of an age span. I would also recommend that parents read this so that they can understand what is taking place at school, at home, and on the Internet."
"The book was a bit confusing since there were sections that obviously appealed to a younger middle school audience and other sections intended for parents. The various anti-bullying pledges reminded me of Nancy Reagen's campaign to "Just Say No"--compeletely ineffective and created for a political purpose. And yes, I am prejudiced--I would feel better if this book was written by a professional with a PH.D in psychology or someone with counseling experience."
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