About this title: Author of the bestseller "Self-Nurture," women's health pioneer Dr. Domar uncovers why women's obsession with perfection is ruining their lives.
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Binding: Hardcover
Publisher: Crown
Date Published: 2008
ISBN-13:9780307354310ISBN:0307354318
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Publisher: Random House
Date Published: 2008-03-11
ISBN-13:9780739358214ISBN:0739358219
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Publisher: RH Audio
Date Published: 2008
ISBN-13:9780739358214ISBN:0739358219
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Binding: Hardcover
Publisher: Crown
Date Published: 2008
ISBN-13:9780307354310ISBN:0307354318
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Binding: Hardcover
Publisher: Crown
Date Published: 2008
ISBN-13:9780307354310ISBN:0307354318
Description: New. 0307354318 From Publishers Weekly According to psychologist and Harvard Medical School assistant professor Domar (Self-Nurture), everything is never perfect, and if you expect it to be, true happiness and contentment will always be out of reach. To teach women to create reasonable expectations for relationships, careers and their bodies, the authors offer quizzes to determine how much perfectionism is influencing readers' lives and interview women struggling with perfectionism. In a three ... read more
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"I failed the quiz at the front of the book. I am not, by its estimation a perfectionist at anything. Being a perfectionist at heart, I couldn't handle this slacker label."
"This book made me realize how much of a perfectionist I really am, and how much it has been affecting my life.
I tend to have high standards, and although sometimes friends pick on me for this, I always thought it just meant I was aiming high, and that there's no harm in that. Even as a kid, when I would practice spelling, if I messed up a word out of an entire paper, I would crinkle up the paper and throw it away, because it wasn't perfect.
In high school, my perfectionism played out well. I usually lot 96's or above in every class, and graduated as salutatorian without ANY percieved stress. I just liked doing my best, and my best was perfect, and in high school perfect was attainable. Perfectionism helped me more than it hurt me.
However, in college, I've come to realize that perfectionism is slowly leading me to my demise. I want to do everything as well as it can be done -- perfectly -- but when you're attending Cornell University for engineering, that's almost an impossibility. There's only so many hours in a day, and only so long I can go without needing to have fun, and without balancing other parts of my life. The only way I think I can be "perfect" at academics now is to not have a social life, a spiritual life, an artistic, creative, adventurous life...I would have to do only school work all the time. And I tried that, and I just can't do it. And I don't WANT to do it. I'm still recovering from the depression that's ensued as a part of that.
And you'd think I'd have a killer GPA or something to show for it. MY GPA is actually lower than many of my friends, who are much more balanced. And I think my perfectionist extremism is a huge part of that. Instead of sitting down and doing an assignment and being happy with "good enough," I've become so anxious about "not doing it right" that I hardly ever BEGIN anything anymore. I procrastinate until it's literally impossible to get the assignment done, much less done WELL, and I suffer the consequences. I'm so scared about doing an assignment "poorly" that I just procrastinate and procrastinate, and in the end not only is not not "perfect," it's not even halfway done in most cases. It's terrible.
Perfectionism has caused me the deepest depression I've ever known in my life ("I'll never be good enough."). It's cost me time with my friends, anxiety, indescribable stress, days-long migraines, an extremely traumatized confidence in myself... Although I used to see my perfectionism as a positive tool, I've realized just how much it's damaging my feelings of hope and self-worth.
This book helped me to realize that. It helped me to see just how truly psychotic many of my tendancies are, and the areas in which they show themselves (for example, I'm much more perfectionist about my work than I am about how my house looks). It's also introduced me to some amazing tools to start "loosening up" and fighting back. And, hopefully, as a result, restoring faith in myself.
The reason I did not give this book five stars is because I feel it focuses a bit too much on married women. I feel that men would not appreciate this book nearly as much as a woman would. The book can come off as sometimes degrading towards men, which I did not care for. Also, I feel that many of the analogies made in the book to help describe a condition would not make sense to many men. Additionally, despite the fact that I am female, the author seems to continually assume you have a husband and refers to "your husband" and "your spouse" frequently, even in areas not regarding relationships. Why not "your significant other?" Maybe that's a bit too P.C., but I felt excluded when reading those parts.
However, despite the focus being primarily married women, I still feel this book was tremendously helpful."
"This author made a LOT of sense, and I think some chapters of the book actually helped me. She isn't saying anything original, but she's using real-life examples and interviews from real-life people like me who suffer from perfectionist tendencies. I felt like I was reading my own story."
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