Sexual Integrity May 2, 2008
This book was a long time in coming, after the success of Every Man's Battle, because the publishers didn't believe that women struggled with the problem of lust. The success of this book proved them wrong.
It addresses the uniqueness of female sexuality; how a woman often has "affairs of the mind", a more subtle and insidious problem that begins with disappointment in her husband and leads her to compare him to other men. These mental/emotional affairs can be as damaging to the relationship as sexual ones.
As I read this book, more than once, I had to stop. "How do they know what I'm thinking? I thought I was the only one."
It tells stories of women whose marriages were ruined when their forbidden thoughts lead to forbiddent touches. These things never 'just happen.' They've been imagined many times, long before the first touch. That's why it's so important for a woman to get control of her thought life.
Fortunately, though, this book goes beyond just identifying the problem. It gives realistic ways to deal with the problem, as well as ways to cultivate intimacy with your husband. This was definitely a pivotal book in the improvement of our marriage.