Review of How to Really Love Your Adult Child Mar 25, 2011
Do our children ever really grow up? In our culture today, parents face several a `new normal' with their adult children.
If you have adult children who have made bad choices, what advice do they give them. Even if they've made good choices, their reality is vastly different than when you were a young adult. How then can we biblically parent our adult children both by our behavior and our instruction?
Take heart. How to Really Love Your Adult Children: Building a Healthy Relationship in a Changing World by Ross Campbell and Gary Chapman offers wise advice and solid biblical instruction to parents dealing with adult children.
Beginning with a profile of an adult child in today's society and moving through red flag indicators and areas of concern, each chapter offers advice to parents of adult children with challenges like success (or heartbreaking failure), commitment and independence (or the lack thereof), facing lifestyle issues (sex and cohabitation.)
This is a needed book. I am the parent of adult children myself. In this changing society, I needed the advice provided here. Why, because the common thread running through all pages of this book was love. We can always learn to love better.
This book takes on some very hard topics. Homosexuality, Heterosexual Cohabitation, Addiction, among them. When each of these topics are addressed, the response of love is encouraged. Even when discussing tough love, the purpose is to make sure the adult child is confident in the bond or relationship with the parent.
Warnings signs are also discussed. Being aware of the symptoms of Depression, ADD, Passive-Aggressive behavior, and many more make the parent of an adult child much knowledgeable and aware.
So what is the most powerful advice I found in this book? It was the example of the parent. A kind, loving, prayed-up parent living out the advice they are offering goes much farther by way of instruction than any school, any book, or any intervention. This what will move your adult child ...
"A by-product of good character is a legacy of stability, when a parent has made good decisions and exhibited clear thinking. Children watch when parents go through tough times and they learn how to handle difficult situations from what they see. An adult child facing tough times will ask `What would Mom and Dad do? How would they think this through? What advice would they seek from others? How would they pray about it?"
- Chapter Ten, Leaving Your Child a Positive Legacy
Buy this book for yourself or a friend. It is wise counsel. Be prepared to contemplate some changes in your own life. I recommend it highly.
The review copy plus one additional copy of this book was provided by Northfield publishers free of charge. One copy was donated to the library of Westwood Baptist Church and one copy was offered as a promotional giveaway.
Reviewed by: Keiki Hendrix
Reviewed for: Northfield Publishers